People in early recovery often need help developing assertiveness skills. Problems related to caustic relationships, codependency and fear of conflict and criticism must be addressed. Depression, self-loathing and toxic shame add to the complexities of becoming assertive. Dr. Randy J. Peterson’s book, The Assertiveness Workbook is highly recommended to help those needing to learn how to assert themselves.
Dr. Peterson accomplishes building assertiveness by reviewing the four primary communication styles: assertive, passive, aggressive and passive-aggressive. He writes, “Being assertive requires: 1) that you have some very specific skills and 2) that you use these skills when it is appropriate to do so.”
At AToN Center our holistic approach to recovery helps the recovering individual build self-esteem through our Cognitive-Based Theoretical approach, our individual and group sessions and our rich educational curriculum. Our residents benefit from learning to identify the benefits of healthy assertiveness.
When the recovering addict becomes self-aware, goal orientated, physically healthy and appropriately assertive they find themselves happier and more content. Practicing healthy assertive techniques in all relationships allows the sober individual to maintain healthy choices and relationships.